Lack of Communication In Dating
What’s up people, That Gentleman checking in once again to get a tiny rant off, well BIG rant off my chest. So, as I sit here listening to music, I’m just thinking about all of the relationships where communication is little to nonexistent. Too often, you see relationships that could be mended or ended mutually with the help of a LITTLE communication, but that’s SO above people these days because they, “can have another you in a minute”. That’s a terrible line in the first place because it shows how much importance someone puts on their relationship, but i DIGRESS. Many relationships include people that have no clue as to where their significant other is emotionally and it’s quite evident by their actions, only furthering the problem. When people look back on relationships, they always say, “I wish I would’ve told them how I felt”, “I wish I could’ve said this (or that)”.. Communication, once again.
My own personal story has many stops in it and the reason I kept it moving at each one of those stops was because of that “lack in communication”, part of it even on my part. Yeah, I can give advice, but I can’t take my own, the usual irony.. right?
People in today’s society are so engaged in the physical part of a relationship, that it becomes the basis for their emotions and communication as a whole. Sex can be very detrimental to a relationship, but it can also be beneficial, IF in moderation… Isn’t it funny how in so many relationships, they can have great sex, but can’t speak openly about their emotions or even sex with each other?! SMH Today, sex is so over-abused that it’s second nature to have sex then talk after haha, sounds usual right? But why does that seem so normal? That’s because it has become socially acceptable to basically start a relationship based off a sexual encounter and I believe it is quite the tale of how our common male-female reactions work.Now I’m not saying that you can’t enjoy sex, but if you sex then talk, you’re going be bored out of your mind because you’re moving in reverse..and a car always moves slower in reverse. You can’t expect to have great sex and then have great convo, that only happens in our “perfect world”, but if you have great convo, then great sex, then you really have something. Once again I’ll reiterate this, SEX iS A BONUS, NOT A BASIS.
Men believe that there aren’t any good women out there, who aren’t whorish,kind of like an urban myth.. And women believe that there aren’t any good men out there who won’t treat them like another usual jumpoff or even be fun to kick it with. Funny but sad at the same time because there is hope out there, it’s just not readily seen, due to that “lack in communication”.
You want him to listen and he wants you to listen, but there’s one problem, you both aren’t voicing yourselves as you should be. Maybe you should take the time to sit and have a thorough conversation, just maybe. You may have been in a relationship and it ended suddenly off one misunderstanding, or it may not even have gotten there yet before it all came crashing down and your little bubble of love, burst right before your eyes. We must learn to listen to on a deeper level, not just hearing “blah blah blah,” but the actual words that are spoken the fragile place, known as the heart.
So you think I’m saying that the answer to all your problems is communication, haha you and I can only wish, but it IS a beginning I assure you. I have plenty more to say, but I don’t wanna be too lengthy so stay tuned. We all have a lot to learn and there’s no instructions, only a script, write your own story.
The problem with communication … is the illusion that it has been accomplished.
- That Gentleman
The Boy Illinois showing versatility in 2009
The Boy Illinois, the Illinois State Representative, will soon be releasing his 2nd installment from the Inhale Series, titled “ Loyalty Before the Love ” on June 22nd... It’s coming with an all new vibe, more versatility, and is going to provide the listener with an explanation as to what the young artist has been going through since he recorded Inhale Part 1. The talented MC is perfecting his craft and looking to build his fanbase with his second effort and you can expect a lot more from him this year, as he looks to provide the game with more fresh talent in Hip Hop in new collaborations and features.
LifeHasNoScript got a chance to catch up with The Boy Illinois to discuss his upcoming mixtape Inhale Part 2 – Loyalty Before the Love and see what he has in-store for the future. He shares the inspiration, thought process, and his current situation, as he prepares himself to lay verses on an mixtape with feel of an album once more.
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You can catch more of his music at http://www.myspace.com/theboyillinois or http://lifehasnoscript.wordpress.com where he will be exclusively releasing all of his upcoming material.

- That Gentleman - Life Has No Script, You Have The Opportunity to write your own.
The Fashion Do’s and Dont’s
So for my first piece I’ll keep it simple.Over the past few days I surveyed a number of people of some Do’s and Dont’s of the Fashion world. Now some of these may be obvious, or a couple you may not agree on. Either way ,it’s here to bring up discussion because honestly, everybody has their own style and perspective on what’s hot or not..So let’s get into this and see where we nod in agreement or bump heads….
Dont’s
Too eccentric- It’s definitely a plus to standout and be unique with what you wear, but sometimes people go too far with collaborating multiple styles into one outfit. Even if you step out of your boundaries a bit, every outfit still needs some type of organization and coordination.
Excessive Coordination/ Overdosing on High end designer print clothing- Sometimes I just shake my head when I see some young kid walking past me and he’s covered in Gucci Print from head to toe. Rocking too much of the same color is also a bad look. Yeah, sure you’re matching. but damn that’s just too noticeable and every outfit needs BALANCE.
Too many sizes too big clothes-Tall Tees and you weighing 150 pounds wearing a size 40 jean isn’t what’s up fellas. For women who buy and wear clothes that don’t even fit them, that isn’t quite what’s up either. Stop trying to squeeze into something that’s not made for your body type or wearing outfits that completely swallow your frame entirely…Your body is a canvas, learn how to show it off well.
Leopard print- I don’t know if this trend has became hot all of the sudden, or I just haven’t noticed it much, but too many people particularly in Spring and Summer are caught rocking Leopard print pants, skinny jeans and skirts..This was a trend that never should have started and needs to end quickly.
Whale Tails – Ladies pull your pants up. There is nothing worse or more unattractive than catching a girl with plumber’s ass and knowing the color of her thong without her even pulling her pants down.
Spandex Denim without the back pockets – Whoever came up with this concept should be slapped. In no way has it ever benefited a woman’s shape no matter how much back she has. Simply put, it’s just ugly. I can’t even breathe when I think about women in these.
Crocs – This has always been a pet peeve of mine personally, so this may come off as a personal don’t, rather than an obvious one. The only the place I see Crocs being reasonable to wear are inside the comforts of your own home, employees at hospitals, gardeners, your grandmothers’ and quick runs to the grocery store. This is a style I believe should never be worn elsewhere. From what I can see, they ARE extremely comfortable though. Crocs and Clogs may be the worst design shoe known to man.
Do’s
Dress according to weather/season – Warm Jackets and Sweaters in the Winter and Fall . Shorts and short sleeves in summer and Spring. Try and stick to the fashions of a particular season. I usually don’t like to mix (e.g. Big coats and shorts), but it’s always about dressing accordingly. Don’t buy a nice outfit that’s made for a different season and force yourself to wear it in unbearable climates.
Fitting clothes – Ladies know how to purchase attire that fits your shape well. There isnt one shape that defines all above the rest. Like I stated above, know your body and its curves and use them properly. My dudes, you don’t have to dress like an 8 year old all the time. Nothing’s wrong with wearing some jeans that fit right and stay within your size range. Polo shirts that don’t reach your knees and collared shirts that fit isnt a bad look ya’ll.
Keep it Casual – Nice T-shirt and Jeans, low key colors, and and simple designs will never fail you in life. I learned over time. by my own examples of learning fashion, that the cliché of “Addition by subtraction” works. Some people misinterpret the saying of dressing down by having a sense that you have to dress like crap and dressing up means putting on your best designer clothes with standout graphics designs and prints is how you show off yourself. But instead you just look like a huge advertisement board. Particularly for women, I’ve always been attracted to a girl who knew who to put a simple outfit together without doing too much and keeping it casual. Everyday doesnt have to be a colorful fashion show. Relax and put some comfortable stylish wear on
Be Unique – Its ok to be trendy and follow what’s hot. You dont always have to go against the grain and be rebellious..As a matter of fact thats a perfect way to be unique, taking current trends and throwing in your rebellious flare to your style. You can use how you dress as a way to show off your personality and a representation of your character. so you dont have to be a droid and get whatever everybody else does. Be you, simple as that.
Feel free to add your own opinions, What you agree or disagree on and your own personal list’s as well. PEACE.
-The Fashion Bloke




- The Dating Guru
( That Gentleman)




