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Venting from the outside… 100K

Sup ya’ll. Its ya boy 100K.  Corey asked me to give a few thoughts on my dealings with women I meet and the mindset I approach women with. Here goes:

Well off top, I’m 23 and single. I love being single. Its only of my favorite things in the world besides music and playing Scrabble. I kid, I kid. But really, its more of a time for me to experience myself and what makes me tick. With that said, I’ll talk about my some of my personal experiences with women I’ve dated. I aint gonna be single forever so you might as well enjoy it while it lasts…

The last few women I’ve dated…the individual experiences ranged from challenging (which I respected) to downright annoying. I’ve dealt with a lot of BS in my seven years of dating: women with boyfriends wanting me, women with previous STD infections (I take sexual health extremely serious. I’m clean BTW.), past issues, you name it. I’m not gonna put ALL my business out there, but these situations were taken as growth opportunities. Here’s how I get down.

1. I look at what a woman brings to the table besides looks-in terms of assets/liabilities. Is she in school or working? Is she an alpha female? What do you enjoy about her? It may sound harsh but I’ve had to put women in the friendzone or just cut them off completely because I knew nothing good would come out of dealing with them. And when I cut a loss, I cut a loss. No Facebook, Twitter, phone calls, nothing. I’m not perfect and I have flaws, but there’s just something I don’t even bother with (ie mind games, girls already in relationships, hoes trying to be good girls, etc)

2. Treat women as individual cases. Everyone aint the same and it is unfair to categorize. That person’s issues are relative to them. And you know what they say: if you keep attracting the same type, it’s something about you. The women you date are a reflection of you, and I’ve learned that its better to stand alone with a good rep than to be with someone sharing a bad one. There was a time when I was just meeting all types of women with fucked up issues, so I fell back and redeveloped my game plan. Now, the caliber of women I usually meet are better because I’m better. I’ll go as far as to say that women feel off of your male leadership skills so get yourself right, then holla.

3. Don’t be scared to speak your piece, You should be tactful while doing this. You don’t want to be this bulldozing asshole and, ultimately, it is a female’s RIGHT to choose to be with you. But a lot of guys salt themselves out of a potential situation with a female because they don’t express their intentions upfront. If you like her, fuck it. Go for it.

4. Get a solid platonic female friend. A platonic female friend is good because they can usually tell you about the girl(s) you date and you can pick their brains about how to relate to females. You aint gonna sleep with every female you meet. I hope I’m not the first person who’s told you that either.

5. HONESTY. A female must respect you for you to even have a semblance of a functional relationship. For her to respect you, you must show that you’re worthy of it. If you don’t want a relationship, let it be known. If you wanna take it slow, same thing. A lie only has so long till it gets exposed. If you have to lie to a female for some ass, its a deficiency in YOUR game.

6. Last but not least, loyalty. If you’re single, play the game responsibly. Be honest and all. But if you’re in a committed relationship, hang up your jersey. Its not fair to her to have to deal with infidelity on your end. If that’s the case, at least have the decency to break up and then do whatever you want. I value loyalty and honestly above anything else.

It may not be what your momma told you about females, but if you’re gonna do something, might as well do it right. Its been a blast ya’ll.

Shoutouts to Corey for giving me chance to share my thoughts.

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November 15, 2009 Posted by lifehasnoscript | lifehasnoscript | , , , , | 1 Comment

.. Crossing over the thin line

There’s this thin line between love and hate, the border between insanity and sanity, which leads me to believe that there’s truly NO in between.

In this mild rant(organized chaos), I’m going to speak on a lot if issues and try to connect them all under one broad theme, “the thin line”.

Before I dive into this broad subject-matter, do not be offended if it does not pertain to you.

Women,  can’t live with them, can’t live without them, which is unfortunately the reality of the situation.  Men, well we’re stuck attempting to find the balance between that insanity and insanity, puzzled as to how to deal with it.

Every individual is made differently, but there are certain instances where we do fall into generalities.  Often,  we find that we get disturbed by individual flaws(granted, it’s how you perceive them).   A large majority of our generation seems to not embrace that individuality, which makes us stand out. I’ll allow myself, for this instance, to speak on the matter of women not embracing it.

I’ve been quite puzzled as to why ladies are so concerned with others that they forget who they are.  There’s a thin line between wanting to appreciate others and loving yourself.  We, as people, cannot expect others to fulfill the love that we SHOULD have for the person we see in the mirror. The increasing insecurity theme with women is in large part due to the sex crazed generation we have now.  I understand the faults of a lot of males these days in their lost touch with the idea that is chivalry.

Brief statement – Jealousy is not love.

Jealousy will not earn you anymore respect than insecurity will.

Back to what I was saying…

Many men and women are now judged by appearance, in some cases, rightfully so. By that judgement, those who do indeed judge, we are already moving entirely too quick. The idea of getting to know a person before you make a commitment has become close to extinct. Please excuse me for interjecting my own own experiences as I speak to you.

I’ve talked with ladies who felt as though me “getting to know them” was far too slow, so to speak. I had to ask myself whether it was right for me to even slow things down in the first place. After long thought, it was in my better judgement to do so. It seems as though today relationships just move extremely too quickly from the beginning, which leads to quicker failure.  I really would love see everyone’s point as to why there should be a balance of speed, but if you happened to read my blog before, you’d notice that I firmly believe that there is a severe lack of communication.  My instincts tell me to not speak with females in the sense that I’m attempting tto become their lifetime companion, but that’s just my instinct.. at the moment.

Reality does teach many lessons, day to day, and we must take from the knowledge of those days past. Understanding the problems that we face today are not as complicated as most would think, they just are not being approached correctly. So, for me to consistently come upon women who are in themselves insecure, just seems like a daily routine. Personally,  I believe that insecurity is far too vast and far too unattractive. Men are quite a bit more simple. We do have emotions, yet we often hide them behind our egos. The physical requirement in a relationship seems to overshadow the feelings that we actually have. Just being frank, it’s become too easy to gain that physical touch as compared to gaining entrance to the emotions of a love/friendship interest.

I’ll leave it at that, for now

..Until we meet again

- That Gentleman

November 15, 2009 Posted by lifehasnoscript | 2009, communication, dating, dating advice | , , , , | 1 Comment