Quote of the Day
“The difference between school and life? In school, you’re taught a lesson and then given a test. In life, you’re given a test that teaches you a lesson.”
What did you learn today?
The Struggle That Shouldn’t Be
This topic, is a very touchy one, but it’s quite important to me. People just don’t seem to understand what I’m about to say, even though it’s extremely simple and straight forward.
You CANNOT change a person.
You see? Short and sweet, often ignored.
In relationships, people tend to look for what they want in a partner, only to learn that they aren’t quite what they thought them to be. I mean I understand completely, it’s always a learning process and it happens on a curve, I got it. You meet a person and you have to learn about each other and attempt to find common ground, done.
What irks me is that people tend to want to change, for better words “mold” their partners. Yes, you read correctly, MOLD. Sculptures are molded to what we want them right?
Let’s take that a step further: You meet a person and you really like what you seem, but something seems “off”, so you have to shape it according to your preferences. BINGO!
So if a lady has bad manners, you presume you can fix them by talking to her about them, right? You might even see a bad girl with a hint of potential, so you STILL talk to her, knowing that she isn’t good for you, no? Naturally, most would give a simple yes. It is not that easy though. Watch this
People change for others out of love and respect for that person.
As the old saying goes, “you can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make him drink”.
I can relate because I’ve been there and done that. It’s just a waste of time going back and forth between what you want them to be and what they actually are.
Don’t get me wrong, people DO change, they just have to want to. It’s so easy to understand, but once again, we often tend to just forget it.
Some people are open to change, others aren’t. Recognize who is and who isn’t, don’t give up, just try to understand, there could be some issues preventing your efforts.
If your efforts are in vain, it’s just water under the bridge and another lesson learned.
..Until we meet again
- That Gentleman
Who Are You?
Quite the question, isn’t it?
I believe we all have asked ourselves this question.
The script, we stare, it’s empty. Truly, it’s nothing more than improvisation, but for better clarity, we tend to write it down. You are asked to either draw a self-portrait or write about who you believe yourself to be. Casually, you begin to think, considering all of your memories past and present. Maybe a few stand out to form the words to an autobiography, or maybe those memories come with smaller images that allow you to piece together a portrait. Either way, you do think you have somewhat of an idea who you are.
A moment stirs within your brain, taking you back to a time where you had no worries. You asked yourself what you would like to be. Fast forward and you still might be asking yourself that question till this day.
So, you continue composing your works, it’s more of a tough task than originally believed to be. I think everyday is a chance to sneak a moment, possibly even an entire day to continue that work. Granted, that you do wake in the morning. Many times we walk past glass or mirrors and hope to catch a glimpse of who we are, but that’s only the beginning.
As agreed by most, you can only tell so much from appearance. The answer lies deep within, in the thought that truly brings about happiness. It could be anything, that is what makes the answer so special. We all have different answers of who we think we believe we are.
Few, are lucky enough to know who they are. Those that do, focus on helping others find that answer and begin to write the script progressively.
This will continue at a different time, look for your answer.
.. Until we meet again
- That Gentleman
Keep it REAL
You know what? Being real is so simple!!
It saves you a lot of time, drama, and headaches. I’m writing tonight because I’ve noticed that a lot of “daters” having become increasingly fake with each other. It’s almost as if people date with masks on now. I mean really, tell me how you REALLY feel.
First, you must be real with yourself before you can be real with others, it’s a fact. If you begin telling lies to yourself, you’ll just become an eventual habitual liar. For example, I’m not the biggest of guys, but I can’t go around telling myself I’m huge everyday, feel me? Sooner OR later, you’ll start to believe those lies and reality will set you back to groundzero.
It’s so much more easier to just be upfront and honest. You don’t have to make up a lie to be honest. Of course, the truth hurts sometimes, but lies expand, truths don’t. One lie could start an avalanche of lies, see John Edwards.
If you’re single, tell someone if you’re dating. If you’re with someone, don’t say you’re just dating. Truths eventually come to light.
Men if you don’t feel that you can be faithful, save yourself the busted windows and let her know. Ladies, if you’re trying to work it out with a guy, let the others know, he just may understand.
In a relationship, learn the art of staying true with yourselves and everyone else. If things aren’t alright, don’t pretend otherwise. It takes more to lie, then to address it and solve the problems. Problems are MEANT to occur, nothing will ever sail smoothly. People understand that others have flaws, it’s one of the many beauties to life. Embrace it and keep it real.
.. Until we meet again
- That Gentleman
A minor thought
“Yesterday is gone, tomorrow has not come,we only have today. Let us begin”.
One of my favorite quotes, if not, my most favorite of all-time. Read it, comprehend it, use it.
Value your sunrises and sunsets, in between showing the appreciation of both.
Thank you 
… Until we meet again
- That Gentleman
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